When I Say No, I Feel Guilty Manuel J. Smith
Publisher: Random House Publishing Group

Meet Thidwick, a moose who just can't say no. One of the most effective methods of telling someone “no” without feeling guilty you're souring the relationship is to inform the customer how you can say “yes”. We can't feel guilty when we say no to requests. Dismiss any thoughts that the person in need will stop caring for us because we replied in the negative. Time and again I hear from clients at my live events, especially the women, that they struggle to say No because they feel guilty. I feel guilty when I avoid risks. A doormat gets used up quickly and tossed in the rubbish. If you can never say no to someone just because you feel guilty while doing it, people can take advantage of you being so nice. I feel guilty when I say, "Yes." I feel guilty when I say, "No." I feel guilty when I take chances. I feel guilty because I did too little. I feel guilty when I ask for help. I feel guilty when I don't even ask. Avoid such situations and learn how to say no without feeling guilty. She somehow has a way of cohursing people into doing what she wants; and, makes people feel guilty if they say “no.” I can still feel the dread of giving in and saying, “ok” to whatever she was after. Learning to say NO without feeling guilt or remorse or sadness or regret is an important life skill.